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What to do when you’ve given up on yourself.

Have you given up on yourself?

Maybe you have and you haven’t even realised it.

You’d be surprised if you knew how many amazing healers and lightworkers have told me over the years, that they’re just waiting for the right time.

I always ask them: “The right time for what?”

The right time… to be amazing;  to help people; to share your gifts and talents with the world; to be of service, to do what you came here to do…?  The right time for what exactly?

They usually have no answer.  (Sometimes just a blank or confused stare into the distance).

They’re waiting for something….   but they don’t know what they’re waiting for.  So then, how will they recognise it when it comes?
It’s just part of the reason that they’re stuck but there’s more.

Does this resonate with you?

If so, here are three reasons that you might be stuck…

For years,  I believed that we had to wait for “the right time”… because that’s what so many spiritual teachers told us.

If something isn’t working for you, “it’s because it’s not the right time” they said.

I’ve learned that:  No!  It’s because you have an energy block of some description and once you identify the root cause and clear it, then you’re free and you can be the amazing person that you came here to be.

It could be a karmic or a past life thing, it could be some kind of spell you’ve taken on.   Sometimes that’s real and sometimes imagined. It can be a story you’ve made up in your mind, or worse, something told to you by a psychic(!) (that you chose to believe), but either way, it shouldn’t have a place in your life now.  So, let’s just find it and shift it out!!!

Secondly, it’s fear.  Fear of failure.  Fear of being seen.  Fear of not being good enough, fear of lots of things and yes, as odd as it sounds, even fear of success! It’s a real thing and there are reasons for it.

These fears can stem from childhood and occasionally past lives, but they are all types of energy blocks nonetheless and they are easily findable in the subconscious mind.

When we shift them out, then we don’t have to stay stuck anymore.

You might think these things are insurmountable but that’s just another sign that it’s an issue of the subconscious mind.  Subconscious, of course, means hidden from your conscious mind, so naturally you don’t know what’s there that’s keeping you stuck.

I’ve learned that when we find the root cause and clear it, our lives can change in amazing and powerful ways very quickly.

Thirdly.  People give up on themselves when they don’t know what to do next.

They may have already failed once or twice, and they may have been hurt in the past too.  Perhaps someone laughed at them, judged them or put them down and they’ve taken it to heart, so they just stop and give up.  It feels unsafe for them to try again.

Sometimes they tell themselves stories about why things haven’t worked out;  how it’s ok for everyone else but that they’re different and it’s harder for them;  that they’re targeted in some way or that others manipulate or lie or use people in order to get ahead.   They might go into judgement of those people who have the success that they really want.

When we do this, we begin to implode our energy.  It becomes stagnant and our vibration can lower, especially if we are having angry, bitter or resentful thoughts.  Before we know it, we are full on in victim mode and our power is gone and we give up on ourselves, our dreams and our passions.

It’s sad to see this in someone and sometimes it can take a bit to turn it around, but I’m pleased to report that it is completely do-able if the person really wants it.

It’s fair to say that usually by this point we need a bit of outside help.  Let’s be honest, if we could do it all on our own, we probably would have already done it!

And it’s true that there might be a bit of “timing” to this, because we have to want it for ourselves and we have to be willing to do the work to get the results that we want.

We can say no pain, no gain.  I don’t believe it necessarily has to be painful but working through emotional blocks can be sometimes.  That’s just a fact.

Elite sportsmen and women have coaches to support them and they train every day.  WE think we can do everything on our own, but the results stand for themselves.  Every person I know who is out there making a difference in the world, whether spiritual or not, has coaches and mentors to support them.

Maybe you’re still waiting for the right time… or perhaps it’s your time to shine now!

When you’re ready book a free discovery call with me and I’ll tell you how I can help you share your gifts and talents with the world and do what you came here to do.

Shine your Light my friend.  The World needs you.
From my heart to yours,

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