I’ve been watching this spiritual bypassing circus for 30 years. And I’m calling it out. I know it because I’ve been IN it.

I’ve been in the toxic new age and ascension groups where spiritual bypassing was disguised as enlightenment. I’ve followed a few false light teachers for a wee while and I could quite easily have become the woman who abandoned herself the moment someone with “spiritual authority” told her she was doing something wrong – but I saw that happen so many times to other women that I didn’t get sucked in… thankfully!

I learned what doesn’t work by being there, seeing it and witnessing it and here’s what I see happening to “conscious” women everywhere:

They’ve got the right vocabulary, they talk about shadow work, integration, embodiment and sovereignty and they can quote all the right teachers because they’re read all the right books and watched their You Tube channels endlessly.

But watch these women in real life.

Watch what happens when they’re triggered because they’ll abandon themselves faster than you can say “spiritual bypass.”

They cave in on boundaries they promised themselves they wouldn’t and then they spend hours turning over in their mind why this “wasn’t the right time to draw the line because…”.

They continue to say yes to things that drain them, then wonder why they feel energetically flattened and exhausted.

They override their intuition because it doesn’t “make logical sense” and then move from healer to psychic trying to find out why they feel stuck.

Here’s the brutal truth: there’s a massive gap between spiritual understanding and sovereign living and many women are stuck in that gap of wondering why 10 years of healing work hasn’t actually changed anything but it’s because they haven’t integrated or embodied everything they’ve learned.

Integration is about developing the nervous system capacity to stay with your truth when it’s inconvenient and when you’re loved ones try to shut you down.

It’s about building the energetic coherence to hold your standard when everyone around you thinks you’re “too sensitive” or “too much”.

It’s about remembering who you truly are instead of looking for someone to rescue you from the person you are portraying in a life that hasn’t been fully aligned.

If you’re reading this and thinking “that’s me” – then you’re ready for something different.  (Here’s how we can work together in Sanctuary.)