One of the things that frustrates many of the women I work with at this stage is something they least expect.

So just put yourself in this place for a moment…

You can see your patterns. You can feel what’s true for you and you can even begin to respond differently at times.

And then… you slip.

Not completely, and not in a big dramatic way, but enough to notice it. Enough to feel that frustration of thinking, “Why did I do that?!  I thought I’d moved past that.”

And what I’ve seen over time, both in myself and in others, is that this frustration doesn’t always settle down on its own.

And that’s because even though something has shifted inside of you… very often everything around you stays the same.
The same conversations, the same challenges, the same expectations, the same environments.

And that matters more than you realise.

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying that you have to change on the inside first… and as you know, when you’ve done some work on yourself, you can feel really different on the inside!

And that change on the inside can feel exciting and even quite liberating at times.

But the problem is that you’re trying to hold your new internal way of being inside a life that hasn’t changed on the outside yet – and there’s nothing to support your new you… and that can take a lot of energy.

And that’s why over time, people start to soften and fall back into old ways. Because they just can’t hold it in the new.

And they don’t really like it… they don’t feel happy about it.

It’s not what they want to be doing… and it’s not because they don’t care, but because they’re holding it all on their own.

So they drift. Not all at once, but in small ways. Almost unnoticeable at first, until one day they realise they’re back in something they had already outgrown.

And this is the part that I think is really important to understand.

It’s not always about having more awareness.

It’s about what surrounds you while that awareness is trying to settle into something you actually live… into your new way of being.

But when you’re in the right space, where truth is normal, where awareness is supported, and where you’re not the only one choosing to live this way, something begins to settle… and embody.

Not because you’re trying harder, but because you’re no longer doing it on your own and you’re in a field that supports your growth.