As a child, I don’t remember anyone ever saying to me that I was here for a reason…but I do remember asking the question: “Why did you have me?”

The answer I received was fairly simple: “We wanted a baby. We wanted you.”

I’d guess that most of us would receive some variation of that same answer.

Later in life, I began exploring different spiritual ideas about why we are here. One of them suggests that we choose our parents and family so we can learn the lessons we need for our soul’s growth.

There may be truth to that, but over the years, through working with thousands of people now, all of whom are on their own inner journey, I’ve noticed something else… and that is, that for many of them, their life seems to carry a deeper pattern.

We are often taught to see life as a sequence of events. There are good ones, bad ones, unexpected ones, challenging ones, endless variations of events that we can perceive in all different ways. But when you step back and look across the span of your life, something else can begin to emerge.

There’s a pattern there… and with awareness, I think you’ll begin to see that experiences that once seemed unrelated actually begin to connect.

Certain challenges appear more than once. Themes seem to repeat themselves.
Various situations push you to develop strengths you never expected to need.

And over time, those experiences begin to shape something within you.

They build a depth, or a capacity for compassion or perhaps an ability to remain steady in situations that once might have overwhelmed you… and eventually many of us reach a point where we begin asking a different kind of question.

Not: “Why did this happen to me?”

But more: “What was this preparing me for?”

And when that shift of awareness happens, something inside of you begins to change.

Life no longer feels random… it all begins to make sense, and you feel something strengthening within you, as though the direction of your life is finally becoming clear.

That moment is often the beginning of a completely different relationship with your life.

When you look back over your own life, have you ever noticed a pattern beginning to emerge?