I’ve never been one of the so-called “love and light brigade” who believe everything’s rosy once we get to 5D, or who refuses to look at anything dark.

I’m realistic about what exists — even at multidimensional levels — and I’ve been down many dark rabbit holes because I want to understand what’s actually going on and how we got here.

My whole purpose is to help raise consciousness and help people awaken. I genuinely want to help people. But I am not a pushover. And I am not a rescuer.

Don’t try to manipulate me. I can feel it coming before you’ve even opened your mouth.

If you come knocking drenched in defeat and negativity, I can’t help you. I don’t do helpless and hopeless. Not because I don’t care — but because I know that helping from that place doesn’t actually help you. It just keeps you comfortable in your stuck-ness. And that’s not something I’m willing to participate in.  Come to me when you’re genuinely ready to change but not before.

If I say I can’t help you, don’t try to guilt me into it. That’s manipulation. My no becomes a stronger NO and it really is best if you hear me the first time.

Just this morning I had three encounters that illustrated this perfectly.

The first started yesterday — a girl in my DMs, long story about entities, implants, attacks, infiltration. You get the picture.

I briefly said I don’t offer that work anymore and wished her strength and courage as she worked to reclaim her sovereign power.

She wrote back that she didn’t know how to do that — and I genuinely felt that. Despite her tale of woe there was something real underneath it all. She nearly lost me with the downward spiral that followed, but my compassion had already kicked in — maybe it was divinely orchestrated anyway — so I responded with some very powerful steps she could take right now to begin reclaiming her sovereignty.

She replied simply: Thank you very much. And a little love heart.

That was all I needed. It was genuine. I know it because I felt it.

I hope she takes the words to heart and acts on them, because what I suggested I KNOW will shift her frequency immediately. That’s what counts.

That was my interaction of compassion. There’s a softness in my heart for her still.

The second also started yesterday — a girl came into my DMs asking how my day was going and what was I focusing on in my business.

I’ve never spoken to her before. Just accepted her friend request the day before.

I felt the red flag immediately.

Even if you’re into marketing or coaching — do you ever walk up to someone and straight out ask: “What are you focusing on in your business right now?”

I thought of a host of answers…

• Making money so I can pay my bills
• Promoting my million dollar course (that’s a joke, I don’t have one)
• Avoiding people like you… (seemed a bit rude, even for me)
• Making stupid dancing reels for Instagram (no, I don’t do that either)
• Actually helping people (should I take the sarcastic route…?)

Instead I wrote: Let’s save time here — what are you trying to sell me?

Nothing sugarcoated. Just straight up and blunt because I could feel what was coming next.

In all fairness, she handled it well and admitted she sells coaching for ambitious businesswomen. Then she proceeded to tell me that she IS genuinely interested in what I’m working on.

Groan.

The third came within moments of that — maybe there was just a weird wobble in the field today or something…

A knock at the front door. Two nicely dressed women, admiring my caravan in the driveway. Very pleasant. Then they pivoted to how terrible the world is, so much suffering, so many atrocities — and did I think it would ever end?

I said there were many great and beautiful things happening too at which point they started reading scripture to me from their phone.

I told them I was quite familiar with the bible, I thanked them and closed the door.  Then I saged the doorstep as soon as I found my lighter – muttering to myself “get thee behind me satan” which probably wasn’t really necessary but it made me laugh anyway….

What a morning!

I sat with yet another cup of tea and reflected on all three.

Here’s what I realised — and this actually matters for how I work and why I work the way I do.

I don’t like being sold to. And I’m quite certain you don’t either.

I did a sales psychology course once. Biggest turn off to selling I have ever experienced!

I did learn how to manipulate in order to make a sale though and that’s probably exactly why I can spot it a mile off in my DMs, at my front door, and behind a very nicely worded opening line – or elevator pitch.

When something is off, I feel it before the words have even formed yet. That’s not a skill I learned. It’s something I’ve always had. And over almost 30 years of doing this work, I’ve learned to trust it completely.

The women I work with are the same. You can feel when something’s real and when it isn’t. You’ve been in rooms and with people that felt “off” even though everything looked fine on the surface. You’ve smiled and nodded while something inside you said no.

You know how to feel truth. You just haven’t always been given permission to trust it or act on it.

That’s actually a big part of what I do.

I help women remember who they are beneath all the conditioning that taught them not to trust themselves — the conditioning from families, from religion, from spiritual communities that looked like the answer but kept you circling the same patterns, from coaches and courses that promised transformation but delivered more of the same.

The work isn’t soft and fluffy. Neither am I.

But it is real. And if you’re the kind of woman who is done with anything that isn’t, maybe we should talk.