So many women have come to me over the years and told me that something has to change.

They’re not suicidal… but they’ve realised that something needs to change in their life.

They’ve just come to a point where something became very clear to them… and they can’t ignore it any longer.

I remember being at this point myself – several times actually – and each time it prompted me to make some relatively big changes in my life.

I think you just realise in the end, that you can’t keep approaching your life in the same way you always have.

Even if that way has “worked” for you, and even if you have a pretty good life.  When something changes inside of you… what once felt acceptable just doesn’t anymore.

And what you once could accept or cope with… well, now you just can’t anymore.

You might not be able to explain it fully.  But you can feel it.  You just know it.

And in my experience, this is often when things begin to feel really uncomfortable.  Because you can no longer pretend that you don’t see it.

You can no longer tell yourself that “it’s fine” or “it will sort itself out”… because you know it won’t unless you do something about it.

I eventually realised that nobody is going to come along and magically make it all better for me.  That was MY job.

I remember being at this point and feeling a kind of burning inside.  I was sooo uncomfortable.

I couldn’t stay where I was… but I was also scared to move forwards.

I knew that something inside of me – a part of me – wanted to be expressed.  And it was asking more of me.

It was urging me to step into more truth, more responsibility, more alignment, more willingness to actually follow through on what I already knew to be true about myself and about what I was here to do.

And this is where many people hesitate.

Not because they don’t understand.  But because they do… and they know that more will be asked of them.

They know that moving forward means letting go of the way they’ve been holding things together until now.

That’s not always easy.  Because even when something is no longer aligned…it can still feel familiar.

And familiar feels safe… even if it isn’t.

I remember going away to a spiritual retreat in 2003 and in a vivid dream, Spirit came to me and asked if I was ready to commit to my soul path.

A wave of fear swept over me because I didn’t know what I might have to give up.  But equally, I knew that I couldn’t not follow that path… because it was so alive within me.

I had to follow where my soul was leading me.

Yes, I was stepping into the unknown.
And yes, it scared me.  But it has been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made and I wouldn’t change it for the world.

Because there comes a point where staying the same becomes more uncomfortable than changing.

And when you reach that point…

You are no longer really searching.

You are deciding what happens next.